tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1261315018538317662.post5045444084141624081..comments2023-07-15T03:45:36.822-07:00Comments on Surrender: Q&A: Why?Coninahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12267844904414770524noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1261315018538317662.post-2497752197072748562012-04-03T08:55:42.053-07:002012-04-03T08:55:42.053-07:00Absolutely, if he's not enjoying himself, what...Absolutely, if he's not enjoying himself, what's the point?Coninahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12267844904414770524noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1261315018538317662.post-77299690256403388382012-04-03T08:54:18.775-07:002012-04-03T08:54:18.775-07:00Oh, yes. I didn't go so far as to say it like ...Oh, yes. I didn't go so far as to say it like this because I could hear the collective eye-roll across the universe, but...yes. "This is what I'm for," is very very true when I say it.Coninahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12267844904414770524noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1261315018538317662.post-65651309378690281152012-04-03T08:52:09.460-07:002012-04-03T08:52:09.460-07:00This is an excellent question and I will answer it...This is an excellent question and I will answer it in another post. (the short answer? yes.)Coninahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12267844904414770524noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1261315018538317662.post-9944116004705772812012-04-03T08:51:05.988-07:002012-04-03T08:51:05.988-07:00Yeah, exactly, my enjoyment stems from his. But I ...Yeah, exactly, my enjoyment stems from his. But I suppose if you add the pleasure I get from his enjoyment to the pure physical nature of the thing, you can't help but get a sum total of more.<br /><br />The tears are definitely intimate. He doesn't cringe away from them even when he's bewildered, or sigh with frustration.Coninahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12267844904414770524noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1261315018538317662.post-10437228979715928802012-04-03T08:48:01.486-07:002012-04-03T08:48:01.486-07:00It's interesting, because I wouldn't descr...It's interesting, because I wouldn't describe what I feel as horniness exactly, unless he's worked me up into that state first. It's just a desire to connect with him, to touch and stroke and kiss. Usually it leads to sex, but sometimes it just leads to long geeky conversations with his arms wrapped around me.<br /><br />Your stress levels are hopefully going down, and your man is becoming more and more of a person, it seems. So perhaps you can have the desire again - but being able to be relaxed with this person is even better than the horniness.Coninahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12267844904414770524noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1261315018538317662.post-27706752434415091122012-04-03T06:01:34.475-07:002012-04-03T06:01:34.475-07:00I enjoy the sense of letting go, totally relaxed, ...I enjoy the sense of letting go, totally relaxed, no pressure, no deadlines, the intimacy of it all and, of course, the orgasms, BUT I wouldn't enjoy it at all if Daddy didn't either. It's a shared interest, lol!<br /><br />Love,<br />KittyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1261315018538317662.post-75043805762242823542012-04-03T05:23:40.563-07:002012-04-03T05:23:40.563-07:00It seems very clear to me. For me, that connection...It seems very clear to me. For me, that connection, the energy it generates is the reason for living. There is nothing that even comes close to that kind of fulfillment :)faerie wingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09749617812384896845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1261315018538317662.post-45667294595358769362012-04-03T01:23:47.327-07:002012-04-03T01:23:47.327-07:00Do you think you would still enjoy sex if you coul...Do you think you would still enjoy sex if you couldn't orgasm?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1261315018538317662.post-86061479229008671372012-04-02T20:25:05.087-07:002012-04-02T20:25:05.087-07:00Wow, really interesting post. I can relate to what...Wow, really interesting post. I can relate to what you said about feeling those intense emotions. I also don't like it when I'm told I'm enjoying it more; as the sub, I enjoy it BECAUSE he's enjoying it. I understand where you're coming from! I'm glad you worked it out. We've been having a few tissue moments ourselves lately. But you know how you talked about the intimacy of sex? In a way, I think those tearful moments build intimacy as well. Not that one would ever want one, but I do think it's good for growth.Rileyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01839475326755424479noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1261315018538317662.post-69403492210822837102012-04-02T19:34:17.884-07:002012-04-02T19:34:17.884-07:00I'm so glad you're enjoying it so much!:) ...I'm so glad you're enjoying it so much!:) I don't. I enjoy it much more in my fantasies, and when I'm writing, my characters totally enjoy it, so I'm capable of imagining really enjoying it, but I don't. It just plain doesn't feel that good to me, not even when I was young and horny. When I was young, I was with my ex who I didn't lust for, and now I'm with a man I do lust for, but my libido is shot. Maybe someday I'll have a man I lust for and horniness at the same time, but I'm beginning to doubt it. The past few years have been extraordinarily stressful, so combine that with being on the verge of 50, and well, sex is mostly uncomfortable for me. Sad but true :(<br /><br />Sometimes I wonder why Master bothers with me, since this relationship is supposed to be only about sex. I'm beginning to think he must actually enjoy my company, or he'd be getting sex from someone a lot more into it than I am.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1261315018538317662.post-87366858923219962972012-04-02T18:59:15.881-07:002012-04-02T18:59:15.881-07:00Oh it definitely causes a void, opposite land or n...Oh it definitely causes a void, opposite land or no. I eventually learn to exist without, but it's not ideal. My husband said that in the absence of sex: "You're just not the best coccolithophore that you can be." (we're huge geeky fans of the radio show Radiolab, and that's a line from one of the recent shows)<br /><br />Computer geek? Who? *looks around and whistles innocently*Coninahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12267844904414770524noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1261315018538317662.post-53777960230072400252012-04-02T18:19:26.810-07:002012-04-02T18:19:26.810-07:00What a lovely tribute to a wonderful connection. ...What a lovely tribute to a wonderful connection. I especially identify with the lack of sex causing a void (which is what you said in opposite land), and when I was a single gal in my 20's, if a month went by without, well, I was not a nice person. Made things hard with no relationship.<br /><br />Since I somehow always seem to end up with computer geeks, I just started saying, once in a while, you have to reboot. :)<br /><br />KittyKitty the Submissive Wifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00185859722963938064noreply@blogger.com