tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1261315018538317662.post5724669468600129035..comments2023-07-15T03:45:36.822-07:00Comments on Surrender: Don't screw society, that's what it wants: the socialization of sexualityConinahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12267844904414770524noreply@blogger.comBlogger19125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1261315018538317662.post-64352236523902835702012-05-19T17:01:43.162-07:002012-05-19T17:01:43.162-07:00It's okay, Jake, I've been late to the par...It's okay, Jake, I've been late to the party on lots of your excellent ones. I'm still feeling the effects of my 3-week visitors. :)<br /><br />Thank you!Coninahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12267844904414770524noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1261315018538317662.post-65055195820360225972012-05-19T04:50:26.980-07:002012-05-19T04:50:26.980-07:00About all I can say to this post, Conina, is "...About all I can say to this post, Conina, is "right on, sister!" Sorry for being late to the party on reading this post--it's a good one!Jakehttp://leathercuffsandsilkenbonds.com/product-reviews/bras/portrait-open-tip-bra/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1261315018538317662.post-27998476408181474192012-05-17T22:33:36.251-07:002012-05-17T22:33:36.251-07:00Master49: That's awesome, and that's exact...Master49: That's awesome, and that's exactly the kind of thing I'm talking about. Natural, healthy urges that don't fit society's ideal of "right" shouldn't be shamed, if the urge is for more sex or less than "normal." There's no such thing as "normal" anyway. :) <br /><br />D/s is pretty heady stuff.Coninahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12267844904414770524noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1261315018538317662.post-7081316163697933742012-05-17T22:25:29.355-07:002012-05-17T22:25:29.355-07:00Great post Conina. Prior to my relationship with m...Great post Conina. Prior to my relationship with my pet, I used to think there was something wrong with me because of my insatiable appetite for sex (one of the reasons I am such a big fan of "Californication"). Thought I had an addiction. Since being with her, I know that it is a natural and quite wonderful feeling that I am loving exploring,.,twice, three times, sometimes more a day. At age 43! Screw the blue pill, D/s is the ultimate aphrodisiac.Master49https://www.blogger.com/profile/01687617346919148607noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1261315018538317662.post-14073354673491983712012-05-17T15:49:53.181-07:002012-05-17T15:49:53.181-07:00You really, really do - lucky!You really, really do - lucky!Kitty the Submissive Wifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00185859722963938064noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1261315018538317662.post-40718976123913431282012-05-17T12:00:12.450-07:002012-05-17T12:00:12.450-07:00I have some excellent, thoughtful commenters, that...I have some excellent, thoughtful commenters, that's for sure.Coninahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12267844904414770524noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1261315018538317662.post-89985473268962323102012-05-16T21:03:13.936-07:002012-05-16T21:03:13.936-07:00I am just getting to this today, and I benefit fro...I am just getting to this today, and I benefit from seeing all the great feedback and continued conversation. Sometimes it pays to be behind in reading. Sorry I can't think of more to add!Kitty the Submissive Wifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00185859722963938064noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1261315018538317662.post-43834214914399780912012-05-16T19:03:02.428-07:002012-05-16T19:03:02.428-07:00Thank you, I'll do my best!Thank you, I'll do my best!Coninahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12267844904414770524noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1261315018538317662.post-12829922910789314812012-05-16T19:02:35.531-07:002012-05-16T19:02:35.531-07:00*raises hand* Yeah, that's me, the broccoli-lo...*raises hand* Yeah, that's me, the broccoli-loving, pumpkin pie hating one.<br /><br />Like I said, if a person has explored his or her sexuality and found that there's honestly nothing in it for him/her, choosing to abstain is completely valid. But if the abstaining person is in a committed relationship, he/she also needs to communicate THAT to his/her partner so an arrangement that benefits both of them can be reached.Coninahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12267844904414770524noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1261315018538317662.post-35860274016737051012012-05-16T18:56:27.278-07:002012-05-16T18:56:27.278-07:00The reality is, we all have different bodies, diff...The reality is, we all have different bodies, different libidos, different levels of sensitivity, different things that turn us on or off, or way on or way off. Some of us can get so uplifted at a church service that we have an ecstatic experience speaking in tongues, and others of us may have never had any kind of spiritual or transcendent experience at all no matter how good the music or preacher is. Sex is like food. Some of us like food in general more than others. Some people love broccoli and hate pumpkin pie. I can't imagine it, but it is what it is. Some people aren't ticklish no matter how good the tickler is at tickling.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1261315018538317662.post-36846727388454149632012-05-16T16:16:18.711-07:002012-05-16T16:16:18.711-07:00LOL Great post Conina keep it up!LOL Great post Conina keep it up!Queen of Erotic Massage Londonhttp://www.peachymassagelondon.co.uknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1261315018538317662.post-35389738821812351452012-05-16T12:58:43.739-07:002012-05-16T12:58:43.739-07:00Yeah, if everyone's genuinely happy and not go...Yeah, if everyone's genuinely happy and not going along to get along, it's all good.<br /><br />You're absolutely right; one partner shouldn't have to suffer. Communicate the issue and get it taken care of - almost no one actively seeks the misery of their SO.Coninahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12267844904414770524noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1261315018538317662.post-35078870952596852022012-05-16T11:54:52.310-07:002012-05-16T11:54:52.310-07:00Clearly they were both doing something wrong, lol....Clearly they were both doing something wrong, lol. I have said that myself a time or two about people who complian about sex. If you aren't enjoying it, someone is doing something wrong. I'm not saying what works for me works for others. I'm just saying it is supposed to be fun and enjoyable and if it's not try something different. <br /><br />I have a friend who is happily married and says she hasn't had sex for over 2 years and they are both happy with it. That's great for them, but for me, not so much.<br /><br />It is the relationships where one or the other partner isn't satisfied that bother me. Do something to change the situation because it could be the best thing in life if they did :)faerie wingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09749617812384896845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1261315018538317662.post-33082567385615060082012-05-16T10:44:08.537-07:002012-05-16T10:44:08.537-07:00You're right, of course. I did try to make it ...You're right, of course. I did try to make it clear in the post that not prioritizing sex IS a valid decision, if it's a fully informed one, and that it becomes a problem in a monogamous relationship if only one of you is on that page. Perhaps I did a poor job, but I didn't want to over-emphasize it at the expense of the rest of the piece.<br /><br />I knew from an early, early age that sex (with intimacy) was really important to me; but I still avoided it with a partner until I was 20 (not aiming for that age, that's just when it happened), I think because of its importance to me.<br /><br />I'm glad you got around to it too, for what it's worth.Coninahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12267844904414770524noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1261315018538317662.post-58626013509682213082012-05-16T10:35:42.775-07:002012-05-16T10:35:42.775-07:00Well damn, joey. If that's not reason enough t...Well damn, joey. If that's not reason enough to sex blog like there's no tomorrow, I certainly can't think of a better one.<br /><br />Thank you for sharing this; it's really nice to know.Coninahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12267844904414770524noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1261315018538317662.post-13219277019381926922012-05-16T10:33:52.529-07:002012-05-16T10:33:52.529-07:00I was actually snug in my bed - when I finish writ...I was actually snug in my bed - when I finish writing a post late at night I tend to schedule it for early the next morning. More people seem to see it then. :)<br /><br />I'm so glad that line caused laughter - I never know how something sounds to other people until they respond to it. I get my husband to read things like this first sometimes, but he's not exactly my biggest critic.Coninahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12267844904414770524noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1261315018538317662.post-40863390702102594592012-05-16T07:51:05.946-07:002012-05-16T07:51:05.946-07:00So awesome.
I do think that there's a choic...So awesome. <br /><br />I do think that there's a choice here to be made: some people are choosing not to prioritize sex, either for a particular stage in their life, or, sometimes, ever. <br /><br />Like you, I worry that when people make that choice, they're being influenced by factors like their lack of awareness of the possibilities of sex. If they know all the possibilities, and they still say, "Meh," because something else is more important to them (like, say, medical school, or surviving a war zone, or whatever) I think that's fine. If they're in a couple, and only one of them says "Meh," though, I think that's a BIG problem, particularly for monogamous couples. <br /><br />I made a deliberate choice not to date or have sex until I was A) a legal adult and B) out from under my parents' roof. I felt like the stuff I'd have to do to have a sex life just made it less likely that I'd enjoy it. <br /><br />I actually think that my choice to de-prioritize sex got murkier as I got older; once I was a legal adult and could get down to Planned Parenthood under my own steam and had sex partners, I know that I really wasn't fully aware of the possibilities or fully in command of my own sexuality. <br /><br />I was also really, really busy: building a career, a family, a life. <br /><br />I am glad I got around to claiming my own sexuality. I think it's one of the best things I ever did and it totally changed my life.Lilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01732305580991933305noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1261315018538317662.post-34900202428088658452012-05-16T07:10:57.538-07:002012-05-16T07:10:57.538-07:00Conina,
This is an awesome post. A year ago I wa...Conina,<br /><br />This is an awesome post. A year ago I was encouraged by blogs like yours to improve my performance as a lover. My wife and I enjoyed sex, but I wanted it to be "mind blowing." I decided that the best way to learn was to read what women wrote about in their blogs: long foreplay, scented candles burning in a dark room, some kink to spice it up, expert use of the tongue, etc. <br /><br />We are now having "mind blowing" sex thanks to the awesome ladies on the internet who share their secret desires.<br /><br />So thanks,<br /><br />Hug,<br />joeyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1261315018538317662.post-83746453035055485872012-05-16T06:36:38.835-07:002012-05-16T06:36:38.835-07:00Wow, I'm online and you just posted! Hi! *wave...Wow, I'm online and you just posted! Hi! *waves*<br /><br />I just wanted to say that you're awesome for being encouraging about this, and that last line made me laugh out loud. It has the ring of "Go forth and multiply", only without the progeny requirement.acquiexencehttp://acquiexence.posterous.comnoreply@blogger.com